Your Cock is Your Bullshit Meter

Sharing this spot-on post from Amanda Biccum, couldn’t agree more!



Listen here beloved brother


Your cock is your bullshit meter


When he’s not hard, it’s not that there is something wrong with him


It’s not that you need to ‘fix’ him


It’s that he’s trying to tell you something


He’s trying to let you know when you’re not a full body fuck yes to whatever it is that is happening in this moment


Consciously you may know why he’s not working…


maybe your heart is still with your ex


maybe you truly want a partner and you’re settling for hookups


maybe you actually don’t want to have penetration and want to be held but you feel her desires and the pressure to perform


maybe the situation is triggering a moment from your past


The list could go on…


Instead of trying to fight him

Or thinking of something to turn you on in the moment so that you can get hard

Or taking viagra so that he can show up


Why don’t you listen


Why don’t you take a moment to PAUSE and check in with yourself


To connect to him and get curious as to WHY and WHAT could possibly be out of alignment


Check in with your heart bother


Because these two parts are actually more connected than you may think


Next time this happens, I invite you to pause.

Stop the doing

and take a moment to breathe.

Ask yourself what you need right now.

Don’t be afraid to speak into what you need or stop completely


And to my sisters who read this…


You can support him


If it’s “not working” can you bring him into deeper presence


Can you bring him into his heart


Can you worship him for his BEING and the way he’s showing up in that moment


Can you slow down


Can you expect less


And most importantly please remember


It’s not about you. It never is.

Learning not to take things personally is quite possibly one of the biggest intimacy “hacks” there is.


- Amanda Biccum